I got thinking about whether change is really possible flicking through channels one night a couple weeks ago and watching one of those prison shows (I cannot remember which one, maybe “Locked Up” or something like that). Anyway, there was discussion on recidivism and how something like 60% of offenders will reoffend. The show was following a few prisoners who were trying to change and get on with a normal life after jail, and then as the show progressed the problems they had in doing so. Some making their mistakes in jail and ruining parole, or those out on parole commiting crimes and going back to jail, even after swearing up and down that they had changed and would never go back.
Then I was weeding out my google reader and looking at all the blogs that I have subscribed to that no longer get updated, usually with the last post being along the lines of feelings of failure. Many of these people had big weight loss successes and admitted that they thought that this time would be different, but ended up being just the same overall. They tried to change and just couldn’t (or stopped).
So, this little marble has been rolling around in my brain for a while and I really wonder if it is possible to change the nature you are born with? You would think if it were possible, then once the change happened it wouldn’t be so much of an effort to stay changed.
It feels more like what the change seems to be is what you focus on. When your focus is on health, fitness,and weight loss – that is what you achieve. When your focus is removed from that, then you stop going to the gym, getting careless with food, eating the way you used to. So it makes me wonder if that would be that person’s (my??) true nature? I am not saying this in a bad way, but just what might be inherent inside.
Some things are really easy to change, and stay changed. Other things are not. I think the answer is really a lot more complex than the question itself.