I was pretty lucky in having a lot of support during my many attempts at losing weight. Not that there weren’t challenging situations and all that, but I think having the people closest to you help you makes a big difference.
Now, John was overweight for a while as well and we were not always losing at the same time. This last time down the scale, it was probably a year or two into it with me eating my new way of eating and John eating what he did. However, he never pushed food on me or sabotaged me in any way.
We eat together, but not always the same thing – and this is true today. John will never eat broccoli and I have it pretty much every single day. He eats a lot of beans and I rarely do.
One thing that is harder when you are maintaining is that the support may not be there like you need it to be still. Many times you will hear, “Lighten up” or “It’s a holiday” or whatever. It’s also the time when a lot of the compliments and such that you received while losing don’t happen anymore because you have been at your weight for a while. There is also the idea that I noticed people have that you don’t need any more support – like you have it all figured out – which is so not the case!
When I do need support, I ask for it. I will read more blogs and websites to help with whatever issue I am having. I will blog about it and use feedback from there. Even if you cannot get familial or friend support – there is a huge community on the internet willing to give you whatever you need. Even if they don’t know it they are giving it (because you read a blog and never comment).
I also give support when asked and I tend to do tough love support (ask my family about that). I will ask when I need it, mostly from John – particularly when my eating starts to get way off track (kind of like it is starting to right now).
You do also need to be careful that the support you are getting is not ‘enabling’ support, but true support to continue on to your goals.
Make sure you read about “Maintaining Support or Not,” at my fellow AIMers’ blogs for their thoughts on this topic!
AIM: Adventures in Maintenance is Lynn, Lori, Debby, Shelley, and Cammy, former weight-loss bloggers who now write about life in maintenance. We formed AIM to work together to turn up the volume on the issues facing people in weight maintenance. We publish a post on the same topic on the first Monday of each month. Let us know if there is a topic you would like us to address!