You all know how I love the NFL. When the Ray Rice thing came out originally months ago – I gave it the serious side eye because while we didn’t see what went on in the elevator at that time, it was obvious this woman was hit hard enough to be knocked out in there. I didn’t understand the delay in the suspension or the short length of the suspension for what to *me* seemed obviously a serious assault. Now, she chose not to testify against Rice, which is hard for me to understand, but I know that DV victims have a commonality in this regard. It bugs me when people call her a gold digger. I think if she was true gold digger, she would have sued his ass then and walked away before getting married. Staying with someone capable of this kind of violence is common among DV victims. Now the whole tape came out and it was like the NFL said, “Golly gee,we knew he hit her, we just didn’t know how hard it was. Now he must go!” as their excuse for why Rice wasn’t canned in April. Like her being dragged out of an elevator unconscious wasn’t a sign? Hello???
Of course, this isn’t just the NFL where this happens. I think that if there is a silver lining to this, it would be the opportunity for the NFL to be a huge, huge player in opening discussions on domestic violence, bring those cowards into the open, and stop blaming the victim.
Breakfast at the table:
John and I are eating all meals at the dining room table now. Normally I eat breakfast at the computer and work, but I read a book that has you eating at the table when you eat (that I will talk about in a few weeks when my life settles down some). I am now not tracking my food, either, which is a big change for me. I don’t mind tracking food, but I am trying out not tracking going along with the book and seeing how I do.
It’s starting to feel like fall around here. This is at one of the local coffee shops:
Rehab is inching along. It seems like it is really hard to make progress during the week because we both have to work. It just goes tiny bit by tiny bit. The upper part of the kitchen is looking much better now:
The lower half still has a long way to go. We are setting up the lowers and having to modify cabinets:
Hopefully the cabinets will be done this weekend (for the most part) and we can start working on the countertops. We are both pretty tired right now. It’s just the kitchen that needs the hard push to get done.
We are having someone come work on our roof starting tomorrow. It’s a slate roof and we knew there were a couple of leaks that need repair. It’s expensive, but there was so much deferred maintenance on the roof (and the whole house) – it will be very worth it. John was able to negotiate the price down, too – Go John! We have lucked out with expenses on things like the electrical, plumbing and heating, so to only have the roof be a bigger expense so far is a good thing.
I’ll end with a gratuitous Pixie shot:
This is her laying behind me on the couch.